Lily Dale

Christine Wicker

• Publisher: HarperOne
• Year: 2009
• ISBN:
  9780061981739
• Topic: Histoire
• Subtopic: Histoire de l'Amérique du Nord

In Lily Dale, New York, the dead don't die. Instead, they flit among the elms and stroll along the streets. According to spiritualists who have ruled this community for five generations, the spirits never go away—and they stay anything but quiet. Every summer twenty thousand guests come to consult the town's mediums in hopes of communicating with dead relatives or catching a glimpse of the future. Weaving past with present, the living with the dead, award-winning journalist and bestselling author Christine Wicker investigates the longings for love and connection that draw visitors to "the Dale, " introducing us to a colorful cast of characters along the way—including such famous visitors as Susan B. Anthony, Harry Houdini, and Mae West. Laugh-out-loud funny at times, this honest portrayal shows us that ultimately it doesn't matter what we believe; it is belief itself that can transform us all.

1

Lynn Mahaffey rides up and down the hills of Lily Dale on a rusty black Schwinn with a wire basket strapped to the back wheel by a plastic rope. She often wears light blue. It matches her eyes, faded to a soft sapphire now that she’s close to eighty, but beautiful still. She rides her bike slowly, past tourists in shorts and sandals, past gingerbread cottages that advertise the services of mediums, past the mediums themselves as they hustle with skirts flying toward Forest Temple.

She bikes five miles every day, for her heart and for the world. She prays as she rides. She holds the earth in her mind, the whole globe, lapis and emerald spinning through space. She prays for everything on it, rich and poor, good and evil, human and otherwise. Upon it all she calls down blessing.

Lynn was in her early twenties in the 1940s when she first visited Lily Dale. Responding to an urge she couldn’t explain, she took off her shoes before getting out of the car. “I knew I was on holy ground,” she said.

Every day she pedals around the cafeteria with its big screened porch and stained cement floor. She skirts muddy puddles in the community’s pitted roads. She passes Leolyn Woods, an old-growth forest bisected by a gravel path. The woods’ path goes by the pet cemetery and leads to Lily Dale’s holiest spot, Inspiration Stump, where the mediums gather to call up departed loved ones. Turn over any rock in Leolyn Woods and you’re likely to find some Spiritualist’s ashes moldering. The people of Lily Dale so often ask to be scattered in the woods that there’s a name for the practice. “Walking them out” it’s called.

Lynn’s tires would bog down in the path’s gravel, so she turns on the road and passes the wide field where Margaret Mary and Bob Hefner stand every month, counting Hail Marys on their rosaries and scanning the sky for the Virgin Mother, who has repeatedly assured Margaret Mary that she will appear. Lynn passes the Lily Dale Spiritualist Church, the little white church where people gather summer mornings hoping to be healed, and Assembly Hall, a two-story meetinghouse where students practice bending spoons and making tables rise. She coasts around men who carry passports to Orion in their wallets and women who give lessons in how to tell an angel from a human being. She wheels around widows hoping to talk with their late husbands, skirts love-struck girls anxious to find out if their boyfriends are cheating, steers clear of divorcees yearning to know whether passion will ever visit them again.

If you came to Lily Dale a thousand times and passed Lynn on the street every day, you might never notice her. She’s short and wears big glasses that sometimes slip down so that she has to take one hand off the handlebar and push them up by stabbing her forefinger into the nosepiece. A grandmother with fluffy gray hair, she is shy, humble, slightly hard of hearing, and soft-spoken. She has no standing in the world, no title, no lofty degrees, no certification.

In the years I visited this 123-year-old village to study the quick and the dead, I came to think of Lynn as a living version of the spirits said to be flitting about, whispering secrets in the mediums’ ears, appearing in dreams, rising up in hazy wavering visions, applauding, encouraging, running things in a way that helps human happiness. If you don’t have eyes to see, you’d never spot her. If you don’t have ears to hear, you’d never listen. It takes some faith to heed an old woman who arrives each summer high in the passenger seat of a big RV, her husband, John, gripping the wheel, her bicycle strapped to the back of the car they’re pulling. Just as it takes some faith to believe in spirits even if you see and hear them yourself.

It was Lynn who finally showed me that Lily Dale can be completely silly, banal, and simpleminded, but that nevertheless the people there are engaged in something vital and true. That understanding didn’t come, however, until more than a year after I met her. Eventually her words would free me; in between, just about every piece of spiritual wisdom she gave shocked and dismayed me.

The woman who helped her change me was her friend and protégé, Shelley Takei. Shelley, who spends summers in a big lavender house on the hill near the entrance to Lily Dale, draws women like the Pied Piper draws children. And, like the Piper, she leads them right over the cliffs, out of what she likes to call consensus reality into free fall, a blissful new reality where all things feminine are all right. Shelley told me everything I needed to know about Lily Dale the first day I met her. She laid it out, but the more she talked the more she confused me. Like a Zen riddle, she is simple to describe but hard to understand.

Most people who visit Lily Dale probably go away unchanged. They find what they expect. Many are already dancing on the cosmic fringe, and Lily Dale affirms them. Skeptics, who like to call the place Silly Dale or Spooksville, also generally find Lily Dale to be the nonsense they expect it to be. But the majority of Lily Dale visitors are neither converts nor scoffers. They believe a little and doubt a little and don’t make a religion of it. They come to play in Lily Dale, to flirt with mysteries, to entertain intriguing notions that can be pulled out at will and put away without regret. For them, Lily Dale is fun, pure and simple.

None of these visitors interested me much. I wanted to meet people with focused hopes, seekers who needed what the Dale offers and were changed by what they received. I wanted to talk to people who needed Lily Dale’s promises so desperately that anyone who encountered them would ache at hearing of their pain and want to strike out at Lily Dale if it deceived them.

I found what I was looking for in a bereaved mother named Pat Naulty and a widow named Carol Lucas. Carol was in fresh grief, still dazed, as though her husband’s death had been a cudgel blow to her head. She was apt to weep at anything. More than anything in life, Carol wanted her husband back.

Pat Naulty came to Lily Dale expecting nothing. The worst of her grief was long over. Her guilt was another matter. She had endured that and expected that she always would. Guilt had so numbed parts of her psyche that she didn’t even long for succor.

I almost missed my third story. The day I first met her, Marian Boswell was a too-skinny little brunette talking compulsively about her troubles. I backed away as fast as I could, but I wasn’t fast enough. Before I got free of her, she told me a story of Lily Dale power that I couldn’t forget. So I contacted her again and listened some more. Hers was a tale of unearthly doings, of prophesized disaster, and of the indomitable human ability to find meaning and hope in the oddest ways.

2

Just pop my brain out, put it in a computer, and I’d be perfectly happy,” Dr. Pat Naulty said. “I’m all intellect.” When people described the community college English professor as spiritual, she invariably thought, What a crock.

Pat came to Lily Dale for a rest. Her friend Shelley Takei invited her during the short break the professor allowed herself each summer. Pat, who was from Virginia Beach, knew only a little about the Dale. She imagined it as a sort of refuge for psychics, like the towns where circus people go for the winter, a sanctuary for misfits.

She wasn’t thinking of her son John as she spotted the little road sign that sits on Highway 60 with the words LILY DALE and an arrow pointing west. She was thinking that after a hundred miles of state highways, too much coffee, and no restrooms, she needed a pit stop pretty bad.

Pat once thought about nothing but John. Fifteen years had passed, however, and even the worst grief has to shift its grip sometime. Pat had left her two sons and their dad to go to college. Some people said she abandoned them, but that wasn’t true. Most people didn’t understand. Pat would have died if she’d stayed in Indiana. She thought so then, and she thinks so now.

John, who was ten when she left, cried, begged her not to get divorced, promised he would be good if she stayed. When he was twelve, he told her he was going to live as though she didn’t exist. “If you send me letters, I won’t open them. If you send me presents, I will return them,” he said. And for a year he did just that.

She kept writing and sending presents, and they all came back. When she called, he wouldn’t come to the phone. But, one day, he opened a notebook of poems she had written to him when he was small, and they broke through. He remembered that she loved him.

As the years went by, it was John, and sometimes only John, who cheered her on. He was the same bighearted little boy who had always saved a piece of his candy to share with her. Their phone conversations never went long before he stopped talking about himself and said, “Now, tell me how you are.”

She knew John was troubled during the fall of his sixteenth year. There’d been minor run-ins with the police, nothing serious, just silly kid tricks. She could hear the blue mood in his voice, but he agreed that she couldn’t come see him until exams were over. He told her not to. She began writing him a letter, but she was so busy. It lay on the desk for days waiting for her to finish.

On the day John and two friends gathered in Vincennes, Indiana, with a gun, one bullet, and the idea that a game of Russian roulette might be fun, Pat was sleeping two thousand miles away. John’s friends each took a turn, and twice the gun hammer clicked on empty. As John lifted the handgun to his temple his mother began to dream. She was at a party, and she had lost something important. An ache grew within her as she searched more and more frantically. What was it? Where was it?

She awoke. Her mouth was dry. Her tongue was thick and rasped against her palette. Her lips were pulled back over her teeth and so parched that they stuck there. For a moment she lay limp, not yet free of the dream’s longing and sorrow. Then she pushed herself out of bed and went to the bathroom to splash water on her face and into her mouth. As she looked into the mirror, she tried to remember. What had she lost?

When the phone rang, Pat knew the voice. Years of love had taught her to hear so much in her ex-husband’s hello that she could jump across that single word into all that might be coming. Years of anger and fear had sharpened that ability. He identified himself anyway.

And Pat said, “John’s dead, isn’t he?”

She heard what her voice said. Her mind didn’t yet know it. Only her body understood. It was as if someone had taken a sledgehammer, aimed it at her breastbone, and let fly. Air gushed from her nose and mouth as her chest crushed into her body. Five years would pass before she could touch the bones near her heart without wincing at the pain.

As Pat passed the awnings of Lazaroni’s restaurant and rounded the curve of Dale Drive as it skirts the edge of Cassadaga Lake, she forgot her need of a toilet. A powerful feeling of homecoming, so intense it was almost delirious, swept over her. This was something she had never felt.

“It was as though I was returning to a place I’d left a long time ago. I felt such delight. I laughed aloud,” she said.

Scientists would say that Pat’s feeling was a glitch in memory caused by the way the brain stores experience. At some time in her life she had been to a similar place, and now her brain was confused. It had lost the specifics of that particular memory and stored only the general feeling and look of the place. She mistook this faulty connection for homecoming and happiness. If Pat had only known more science, she would have reasoned that delight away. She never would have felt all woozy with wonder as she passed through the gates that separate Lily Dale from the world.

3

Sinclair Lewis was shocked by the poor deluded and bereaved souls he met in Lily Dale when he visited in 1917.

“No one could be flippant over the great tears, the broken voices, with which the old people greet the ‘message,’” he wrote, characterizing the Dale’s visitors as people who lived in the past. “No few of them are absolutely alone—parents, husband or wife, brothers, sisters, uncles, even children gone.”

In one séance, as squeaky spirit voices spoke from within a curtained-off area known as the spirit cabinet, a woman sobbed and called to her dead husband, “Oh, my dear, my dear, it’s so wonderful. Oh, my dear, I am so lonely for you. Is Charley with you? Oh, my dear!” Another woman moaned hysterically and finally fainted.

Lewis left the room with relief, writing that the cheerful music of the Saturday evening dance was decidedly “preferable to the spirit fog we had been swathed in.”

Most of the spirit fog has now been banished from Lily Dale. Today’s mediums practice in well-lighted parlors and do not use crystal balls, spirit cabinets, or Ouija boards. Trances are out of favor. Mediums speak in their own normal voices and rarely even shut their eyes. Spirits don’t generally appear to the physical eye or make noises that the physical ear can hear. These days few people expect them to. People usually come to Lily Dale to talk about manifestations that only the mediums perceive.

What hasn’t changed is Lily Dale’s attraction for the bereaved. Sometimes their grief is so fresh it oozes. Sometimes it’s ancient, calcified about them, a carapace that has grown between them and other living things. Some want a door that will let them into the past. Others want release. They all want a sign, a vision, a word that will give them surcease from the terrible gone of death. They seek forgiveness for wrongs they don’t dare name. They have one last message that they must deliver.

And always the question is, are the Spiritualists good people helping or cold-hearted deceivers gulling the weak? It is here that Spiritualism’s critics catch fire, sickened by what they see. Perhaps the saddest of the bereaved are parents who’ve recently lost a child. They huddle into one another, their heads tucked like wet sparrows, or they sit planted on the seats, separate, hardly looking at each other, their eyes wide, their feet flat on the ground, their faces as stiff as statues in a wax museum.

One blond woman came to Lily Dale hoping desperately for contact with her dead son. At an outdoor message service, where crowds gather hoping for a few free words from spirit, the medium picked her right away. “Do you have a son in spirit?” she asked.

The mother nodded.

“He’s here,” said the medium. “He wants you to know that. Are you into computers?”

The mother shook her head slowly.

“You’re not. Well, you will be. I see you working with computers and being very successful.”

The mother’s face was wooden. She shook her head again.

“Yes. That’s what the spirits are telling me,” the medium said. “That’s what they say.”

The woman went to medium Lauren Thibodeau after the outdoor service and was near tears as she told Lauren what happened.

“She was right about my son,” she said. “So she did know that, but if he was there, why didn’t she give me a message? Why did she keep talking about computers? I hate computers. I don’t work with them. I’m not going to work with them. All I wanted was a message from my son.”

“Sometimes mediums get mixed up,” Lauren said. “Sometimes they have an off day.

“Your son is here now, and he does have things to tell you,” she said. The boy’s spirit had come in with his mother, Lauren told me later. “Parents who have children in spirit almost always bring them,” she said.

Carol Lucas was a widow of three months. Unlike those pitiable souls who so upset Lewis, she was not alone. A childhood friend had come with her for her visit to Lily Dale, and they stayed at the house of Carol’s former philosophy professor, Frank Takei, Shelley’s husband. Carol was not poor, she was not old, and no one would ever have said she could be easily deluded. She was a hardheaded, practical woman. Too perfectionist, she admitted, but responsible, dependable. Students in her high school English classes nicknamed her Mother Lucas after she wagged her finger at one of them during class and said, “You can’t fool Mother Lucas.”

At fifty-nine, she wore well-pressed, carefully chosen clothes. When she stood, her posture was invariably erect, and she did not shy away from using the fine vocabulary and precise expression that are...