Confessions of a Funeral Director

How Death Saved My Life

Caleb Wilde

• Publisher: HarperOne
• Year: 2017
• Print ISBN:
  9780062465252
• eBook ISBN:
  9780062465269
• Topic: Social Sciences
• Subtopic: Social Science Biographies
• Index: Social Sciences

"Wise, vulnerable, and surprisingly relatable . . . funny in all the right places and enormously helpful throughout. It will change how you think about death." —Rachel Held Evans, New York Times–bestselling author of Searching for Sunday
We are a people who deeply fear death. While humans are biologically wired to evade death for as long as possible, we have become too adept at hiding from it, vilifying it, and—when it can be avoided no longer—letting the professionals take over.
Sixth-generation funeral director Caleb Wilde understands this reticence and fear. He had planned to get as far away from the family business as possible. He wanted to make a difference in the world, and how could he do that if all the people he worked with were . . . dead? Slowly, he discovered that caring for the deceased and their loved ones was making a difference—in other people's lives to be sure, but it also seemed to be saving his own. A spirituality of death began to emerge as he observed the family who lovingly dressed their deceased father for his burial; the nursing home that honored a woman's life by standing in procession as her body was taken away; the funeral that united a conflicted community. Through stories like these, told with equal parts humor and poignancy, Wilde's candid memoir offers an intimate look into the business of death and a new perspective on living and dying.
"Open[s] up conversations about life's ultimate concerns." — The Washington Post
"As a look behind the closed doors of the death industry, as well as a candid exploration of Wilde's own faith journey, this book is fascinating and compelling." — National Catholic Reporter
"[A] stunner of a debut." — Rachel Held Evans, author of Inspired

Table of contents

• Cover
• Title Page
• Contents
• 1. Death Negative
• 2. Playtime in the Casket Room
• 3. Broken Open
• 4. Death Sabbath
• 5. Searching for the Divine in the Dark
• 6. Sacred Dirt
• 7. The Myth of the Death-Care Amateur
• 8. Front-Door Policy
• 9. Listening to the Voice of Silence
• 10. Grief as Worship
• 11. Sara’s Mosaic
• 12. Heaven on Earth
• 13. Sam Mckinney’s Mysticism
• 14. Active Remembering
• 15. Finding My Words
• 16. Yin and Yang
• Ten Confessions: An Epilogue
• Author’s Note
• Acknowledgments
• Notes
• Discussion Questions
• About the Author
• Back Ad
• Copyright
• About the Publisher