Leadership character
There are different styles of leadership but all of them depend on character. Thatâs why Iâve made character the subject of the first chapter of this book. Later chapters deal with practical aspects of leadership, but first and foremost the leader must possess the essential attributes of leadership: courage, patience, a steely mental toughness and the passion and enthusiasm needed to bring about change. Leadership that doesnât demonstrate these principles is spineless.
1.1
Put courage first
Winston Churchill once said, âCourage is rightly considered the foremost of the virtues, for upon it all others depend.â Leadership courage often means experiencing emotional or even physical discomfort. Is it the first of the leadership virtues? There have been many instances in history where a failure in leadership was the result of a failure in courage.
When people told Terry Anderson, the US journalist who was held hostage in Lebanon for seven years how courageous he had been, he modestly pointed out, âPeople are capable of doing an awful lot when they have no choice, and I had no choice. Courage is when you have choices.â Leaders are constantly faced by choices and the kind of courage they have to display is often moral and ethical. It is the mark of the leader who stands up for a principle when others would prefer
âThe brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fearâ
Nelson Mandela, South African political leader
to walk away. It is about acting out of integrity and being true to oneâs principles. It is the courage of the person who, when they realize that something important is being lost, will take a stand and ask the questions that no one else dare ask.
This bravery, this sense of principle is inspiring to others. It makes its mark in peopleâs hearts. It is a stand for truth and what is believed to be right. Such behaviour sets out clear boundaries and inspires those who feel they are working in ambiguity. When, for whatever reason, a team loses heart then it takes a great leader to make them address their fear. To show that the doubts and fear in the team are the very things holding them back.
A leader who displays this moral courage honours those who also show the same behaviour. It is the beginning of an ethically motivated team. It leads on to ethically motivated departments and even whole organizations.
The moral courage needed to follow your principles and take difficult decisions will inspire your team.
1.2
Be mentally tough
We all have moments in our lives when we come to a difficult situation that screams to us to give in. Everyone else has given up so why donât you? Do you stay and fight? Or do you suddenly feel lonely and join the others walking away? Welcome to the world of mental toughness.
Being a leader calls upon mental toughness many times over. For example, youâve communicated the goal to everyone. But now you find that circumstances have changed in a way you could never have foreseen. You still want the goal. But people are telling you to âget realâ and let the goal go.
Such moments are lonely. And itâs often these moments that highlight just how isolating the position of being a leader is. Itâs the âmoment of truthâ: to carry on or give up.
The American football coach Vince Lombardi said of mental toughness: âIts qualities are sacrifice and self-denial. It is combined with a perfectly disciplined will that refuses to give in. Itâs a state of mind â you could call it character in action.â
Mental toughness is about recognizing the fight as a long one. There are times when you have everyone with you. And times youâre on your own. Either way, a mentally tough leader will be determined to see it through to achieve what they know is the right outcome.
One person is a great example of this combination of passion and patience: KFCâs Colonel Sanders. He experienced 1,009 rejections before the first restaurant agreed to sell his chicken for him!
Mental toughness is the determination to carry on against the odds to achieve success.
1.3
Discipline yourself
Self-discipline is putting aside what youâd like to do to concentrate on something you need to do. Itâs recognizing the temptations, desires and habits that can seduce you towards an easier path. But a leader calls upon an inner strength that makes them choose the harder â and right â path. And that path involves sacrifice and commitment.
In Greek mythology, Odysseus was warned about the sirens. The sirens sang music so beautiful that it lured sailors to their death on the rocks around their island. To escape, Odysseus made his men plug their ears and tied himself to the mast. Because of this they successfully kept their ship on course.
Self-discipline is the same choice. If you go with your emotions rather than your inner strength and logic, your purpose or goal may smash upon the rocks. You need to exert will-power over your desires and exercise real self-control. Your self-discipline will be recognized â and often imitated â by those you lead.
So what prevents us from conquering these emotions and choosing the right path? What some do is fool themselves and find justifications for their choices. Why donât I exercise more? I havenât the time! Why donât I get up earlier? I work so hard and get so tired. Why do I drink? If only you knew the stress Iâm under!
If we can fool ourselves so easily, are we fit to lead others? If we canât be truthful to ourselves, how truthful are we to those we lead? We need to train ourselves to control our behaviours. Show the strength of our own willpower by refusing to be ruled by weaknesses or habits.
Management consultant Stephen Covey thought that discipline was freedom: âThe undisciplined are slaves to moods, appetites and passionsâ. Leadership is about freely choosing thoughts and actions that lead to improvement. Itâs denying the easy gratifications that surround us and keeping true to our goals. To ask others to demonstrate self-discipline involves us setting the example.
Self-discipline means denying yourself what you want to do and doing what you need to do.
1.4
Value your character
You may think your words count. But they donât count anywhere near as much as your deeds count. Your deeds speak to your team about your character. They convey what you value and who you are. They are your values in action. So you must make sure that your actions are driven by the right values.
Everybody has values. Unfortunately some peopleâs values are unattractive. They value themselves and their own feelings of superiority. They value their own needs being met â even at othersâ expense. Do you recognize those values? Youâve probably witnessed them in someone youâve worked for. And thatâs the interesting thing. Even when people try and cover up their negative values, they canât. They leak out. They become visible.
âCharacter is doing whatâs right when nobodyâs lookingâ
J C Watts, US congressman
But positive values leak out as well. These values appear in the way that we behave towards our team. As General Norman Schwarzkopf said, âThe main ingredient of good leadership is good character. This is because leadership involves conduct and conduct is determined by values.â
We probably have two sets of values. The first values are those that we tell people about. They are our âdeclared valuesâ. The other set of values are those that people actually see in action â our âdemonstratedâ values. A person who has a strong character is always trying to make sure that their declared values match their demonstrated values.
When the two sets of values match then you have someone who is truly authentic. They possess the right values-driven character. As a leader they make decisions based on these values. And an authentic leader usually makes the right decisions.
Authenticity is when your declared values correspond with your demonstrated values.
1.5
Project confidence
Is it possible for a leader always to project confidence? Surely every leader walks into situations which they donât feel confident about. It could be a presentation in front of a large audience. It might be dealing with a very emotional issue. There are many things to throw the leader out of their comfort zone.
Work is always going to put these challenges in our way. The way we deal with them conveys a lot to those around us. So itâs vital that we maintain a confident manner. We need to approach difficult or ambiguous situations with the conviction that âall will come goodâ. So how can you sustain a belief in oneâs powers and abilities? Here are some practical techniques to help you appear â and feel â more confident.
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