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âThat Marvelous Female TendernessâŠâ
At the turn of the twentieth century, the sleepy, whitewashed southern town of Taganrog on the inland sea of Azov had a population of about 61,000 inhabitants, the majority of whom were involved in trade and commerce. A century earlier, Taganrog had been a major Russian port, but its economic importance had steadily declined until it ranked only tenth in exports and eighth in imports among the port cities of imperial Russia.1
The cityâs multinational population included many Greek and Turkish subjects whose cultures contributed to Taganrogâs exotic, un-Russian atmosphere. In the port area, with its ever-present Turkish feluccas and Greek ships, the air smelled of ship tars and salt. The sea changed color with the seasonsâgreyish-blue in spring, bright green in the peculiar amber yellow of Taganrogâs summer sunsets.
Most of the houses in the city had terraces and balconies; âthe gardens and public parks were full of tea roses, lilacs, and heliotrope. Planted with white acacias and pyramidal poplars, the shapely streets seemed like a park in themselves.â In summer, the wealthier sections of Taganrog exuded a sweet fragrance. From the âGreek monastery, its Doric columns showing white against the sky, came the mournful sound of evening bells.â After the oppressive heat of the day, the townâs young people would come out to meet one another in the municipal park or the harbor. âRed, lilac, yellow, and orange scarves wafted in the breeze from the shoulders of the young Greek women. The evening kept the secrets of young lovers. Suddenly, an empty street would exude the sweet smell of perfume as a bronze-skinned Greek woman in a white dress darted around the corner and vanished into the night.â The Greek letters on the ships in the harbor and on the hairdressing salons in town were âredolent of a mysterious antiquity,â which acquired a distinctive sound in the prayers of Greek Orthodox believers sitting and telling their rosaries âas the long hot summer days stretched on indolently.â2
On July 30, 1885,3 it was oppressively hot. There had been a brief shower early in the day, but the âmeasly dropsâ of rain it provided could ânot slake the thirsty earth that had gone all cracks and crevices.â4 The horizon seemed to be melting in the intense heat. As the âcicadas crackled and chirredâ outside the open windows, a young Jewish physician, Alexandra Parnokh, struggled in the throes of her first labor:
Now falling back, now on her elbows raising
herself again, digging her nails into
her palms, biting her mouth till it bled,
plaintively and ardently a mother
did her female deed; the vein beneath the hollow
of her temple beat, beat under cooled sweat.
Her depths cracked, like the earth from the heat,
the cicadas seemed to crackle in her earsâ
and on that day of drunken witchesâ rapture
to me, the newborn girl, was given a sacred,
the most sacred of all names.
Like a call to deeds, it summons meâSOPHIA⊠(#85)
Alexandra and Yakov Parnokhâs first daughter, Sophia (Sonya), was born into the exact middle of one of the bleakest decades in Russian history. The reigning tsar, Alexander III, had come to the throne upon his fatherâs assassination in 1881 proclaiming his faith in the power and right of autocracy.5 His dedication to turning the clock back twenty years was only increased by his belief that the reforms promulgated by his father in the sixties and seventies had ended in treason. Out of nostalgia for the ancien rĂ©gime he fostered the traditional political alliance between the autocracy and the nobility, which, âtogether with the forward drive of industrial capitalism ⊠constituted the principal source of policy in [his] reign.â6
Industrial expansion became the tsarist governmentâs economic priority and was achieved rapidly, but at the expense of industrial workersâ well-being. Taganrogâs growth was fairly typical in this regard. It received its initial boost in 1896 when Belgian capitalists began construction of a metalworks and boiler factory in the city. As soon as it went into operation, malfunctioning equipment and the absence of safety regulations resulted in a large number of accidents. Gradually, a whole âarmy of invalids and maimed menâ grew up in the working class districts around the plant.7
Those neighborhoods presented a sharp contrast to the wealthier parts of Taganrog. Most workers did not earn a living wage and had to buy food and necessities on credit from local merchants. This forced them into a cycle of permanent indebtedness. Sanitary conditions in the poorer districts of Taganrog were appalling, and epidemics of plague and cholera swept the city in the early nineties.
Tsarist political repression increased in severity throughout the eighties and nineties and continued through the first decade of the reign of Nicholas II, who came to the throne in 1894. Russian universities, which Alexander III had considered, with some justification, to be breeding grounds of revolution, had lost their autonomy at the beginning of his reign. Between 1881 and 1905, the year of the first Russian revolution, there were few parts of the empire where ordinary laws were not at some time abrogated in favor of government by tsarist decree.
The official policy of russianizing non-Russian populations in the empire led to the open persecution of national and religious minoritiesâPoles, Ukrainians, Armenians, Russian Orthodox dissenters, Transcaucasian Moslems, and especially Jews. Under Alexander III and Nicholas II, the Pale of Settlement, within which most Jews were forced to live, was further restricted. Jewish peasants were forbidden to acquire land, and Jewish enrollment into schools, universities, and professions was limited by quotas. An official anti-Semitism prevailed. Wealthier and well-educated Jews, particularly in the two capitals and other large cities, tended to assimilate into the dominant Russian culture. They experienced less overt and less violent anti-Semitism and ceased to identify, in most cases, with the great mass of poverty-stricken and persecuted Russian Jews.
Taganrog was outside the Pale of Settlement and far from the centers of Jewish population in Russia. It was also one of the few places in the empire where there had never been any Jewish pogroms, although âin a neighboring town the pogromists would routinely stop male passersby and forcibly unbutton their trousers, looking for âthe cut ones.â â8 Sonyaâs younger brother Valentin (Valya) remembered hearing the adults at home talk endlessly about âresidence permits,â and he never forgot overhearing someone once say, âSoon a Jew will no longer have the right to cross the street.â9
The Parnokh family spoke Russian and was completely assimilated, as were the majority of Jewish families in the town. Yakov Solomonovich, a pharmacist and the owner of an apothecary, was one of Taganrogâs five hundred âhereditary honorary citizens,â a title conferred on persons not of gentle birth for good citizenship and services rendered to the state. Though sensitive to anti-Semitism, he was indifferent to religion, never attended synagogue, provided no religious instruction for his children, and gave frequent voice to his dream of leaving Russia and living in Western Europe.
The Parnokh children were brought up to think of themselves as Russian first and Jewish second, if at all. But, as often happens with children in nonreligious homes, they developed a passionate interest in religion, although they were stirred by different faiths.
The level of culture in Taganrog was not considered to be very high. In 1897 only 1.3 percent of the population possessed a higher education, a mere 10 percent were high school graduates, and 68 percent of the women and 57 percent of the men were illiterate.10 The monied aristocracy constituted the cream of local society, but its members were not especially well-educated or interested in cultural pursuits. Their life centered around the two main social clubs in town with their perpetual round of balls, coming-out parties, arguments over seating arrangements at formal dinners, and eternal card games.
The Greeks, Italians, English, and other foreign inhabitants also contributed little to Taganrogâs cultural life, since their education, for the most part, did not exceed bookkeeping and business correspondence in foreign languages.11
The city did take justifiable pride in its first-rate Italian Opera Company, which merchants had financed in the 1860s and 1870s. Well-known singers, actors, and other performers from larger cities regularly visited Taganrog on tour.
Anton Chekhov, the cityâs most famous native son, had a very low opinion of cultural life in his hometown, which he left in the late seventies in order to study medicine in Moscow. When he visited Taganrog in 1887, he noted the townâs âbrutishâ living conditions and atmosphere of âuniversal laziness.â12 Things had not improved in his opinion seven years later, when, during another visit, he told a reporter for the local newspaper that the press âshould be more assiduous in reminding the townspeople of how neglected their city was, of its lack of plumbing and a decent public library.â13 Chekhov himself worked tirelessly for the creation of a municipal library, which, due largely to his efforts and gifts of money and books, finally came into existence in 1903.
The Parnokhs were no doubt considered part of Taganrogâs intellectual elite. As in other Russian towns, they led a life entirely separated from the masses and their problems. Alexandra Abramovna was an exceptionally well-educated woman for her time, one of the first generation of women doctors in Russia. Her husband also valued education and provided his children with an excellent one at home that prepared them well for the gymnasium. As was typical in affluent Russian homes of the educated classes, the Parnokh children learned to read at a young age, were taught to speak French and German by native-speaking governesses and tutors, and studied music. Sonya and Valya both began writing poetry in childhood, she at six and he at nine.
Sonya was the only one of the three Parnokh children to have lived with their mother. In the almost six years before the birth of her brother and sister, she did not bond especially closely with her mother and grew up with the sad feeling that she had never known her. As a little girl she was closer to her father, but her younger brother apparently replaced Sonya in his fatherâs affections. Pride forced her to hide her resentment. Later, she rechanneled it into a studious indifference to her father and cultivated her distance from him.
She forgot, repressed, or, at the very least, did not care to record her childhood memories. Her lyrics contain virtually no childhood memories to speak of except for one striking memory of the blazing, crimson sunset she would contemplate outside the west-facing window of her nursery. According to one of her poems, it often evoked in her ambivalent âlearnedâ daydreams of the kind of âbloody death that befits a heroâ (#157). Valya remembered having similarly violent childhood fantasies of heroism as he daydreamed constantly of becoming the liberator of the Jews.14 Both childrenâs daydreams were fed by books. Valyaâs favorite was called Wars of Liberationâit narrated the freedom struggles of the Italians, Greeks, and African-American slaves. Sonya eagerly read stories from Greek mythology and the Old Testament.
Much later, Parnok recalled her earliest childhood âdreams,â before she learned about the bloody deaths of heroes, as innocent, âspringlike,â and âcarefreeâ (#2). But she came to feel cut off from those âcarefree dreamsâ by a âthorny pathâ that had been overshadowed by âmisfortunesâ (#2).
The first of these misfortunes was no doubt the death of her mother. In 1891, when Sonya was about to turn six, Alexandra Parnokh succumbed after giving birth to the twins, Valentin and Yelizaveta (Liza). The loss of her mother left a permanent wound in Sonya.
In the poem she wrote about her birth, a portion of which was quoted earlier, she tellingly portrayed her birthing mother as doing her âfemale deed,â while she, the daughter and poet, felt summoned to an ungendered âdeedâ in the service of her âsacred name, Sophia,â the Mother Wisdom. Apart from âJuly Thirtiethâ (#85), Parnok remembered her mother only once in her poems, as a personality utterly different from herself, who, she surmised, would probably have disapproved of her daughterâs life. She always cherished the hope that her mother would have loved her, but she apparently never knew whether she had.
The second misfortune of Sonyaâs childhood followed rapidly upon the first. Shortly after Alexandra Abramovnaâs death, Yakov Solomonovich married his childrenâs German governess, with whom he had apparently been having an affair. Nothing is known about the Parnokh childrenâs stepmother, not even her name, except that she aroused strong negative feelings in all of them.
Valya nurtured a virulent hatred of his stepmother, which later expressed itself in his violently misogynistic detestation of Russia: âRussia is eternal slavery, the eternal stepmother ⊠scum of the world ⊠a very broad peasant-woman monster with an inordinately small vagina!â15
Sonyaâs feelings for her stepmother seem to have been more diffuse, ambivalent, and therefore, perhaps, more confusing and troubling. She probably resented her for captivating her father, whose weakness she scorned while empathizing with what she felt to be his victimization by a power-loving woman. At the same time, the sexual charisma she perceived her stepmother to wield probably attracted her. Sonya viewed her stepmother primarily as a seductress and dominatrix. She felt less persecuted by her pseudo-mother than challenged to conquer and out-mother her.
Sonyaâs main issue in growing up was her own motherlessness, and it ultimately expressed itself in her attitudes toward Russia, too. But where Valya rejected Russia as the false, evil, sexually unaccommodating stepmother, Sonya sought comfort in her as the true, good, all-embracing mother and self. Her view, unlike Valyaâs, specifically contradicted her pro-European fatherâs outlook.
Parnokâs childhood was thus spent in a materially secure and even privileged environment that was emotionally wanting and treacherous.16 In many respects her adult life reversed this imbalance: she found herself chronically in need of money, but never wanting for the love and support of women.
Like many Victorian families, Parnokâs presented a proper appearance to the world that probably covered up its share of dark secrets. One fact is obvious and compelling. The poet carried away from her childhood the strong feeling that she had had no childhood, that she had emerged into adulthood at too young an age. As a young adult she attributed her persistent sense of being too old for her years to being a Jew.17 Perhaps her too-Jewish understanding of the world can be seen in the expression of her pensive, sad, aged-childâs eyes in the one surviving childhood photograph of her.
Shortly after Nicholas II ascended to the throne, Parnokh entered the Empress Marie Gymnasium for Girls in Taganrog, where she would complete her formal education over the next eight years.18 The curricula of all the Marie gymnasia were the same and all subjects except music were compulsory.19 Parnokh therefore studied religion, Russian, French, German, mathematics, history, geography, physics, science, drawing, needlework, gymnastics, choir singing, and dancing. Her school year extended from the beginning of September through mid-June, and she was in school from nine in the morning until three in the afternoon, six days a week. While school was in session, she wore a uniform to classes and in all public places. She had two weeksâ vacation for Christmas and Easter, and her class was limited to forty girls.
During her last three years at the gymnasium Parnokh entered puberty and began writing poetry intensively. She collected her poems into notebooks: only one poem (J-1) and the table of contents remain from the 1900 âNotebook of Poems.â20 The forty-nine poems (J-2â50) in the other group cover the period from April 1901 through mid-May 1903. Most of them are dated exactly (a few even with the hour they were written), a practice Parnok did not always follow later on. Taken together, these fifty poems constitute a kind of lyrical laboratory and di...