BEYOND SHYNESS: HOW TO CONQUER SOCIAL ANXIETY STEP

How to Conquer Social Anxieties

Jonathan Berent

• Publisher: Touchstone
• Year: 2011
• Print ISBN: 9780671885250
• eBook ISBN: 9781439147696
• Topic: Psychology
• Subtopic: Education in Psychology
• Index: Psychology

Through interactive exercises and supportive, encouraging words, Beyond Shyness gives shy people a new chance in the social world. Almost everyone feels shy or slightly stressed in certain kinds of situations -- with new people, on a job interview, or on a first date. Jonathan Berent has helped thousands who suffer from shyness become calm, confident, and socially adept. He shows how even extremely shy people can overcome the low self-esteem and frustration that settle in after years of social disappointments and rejection, and gradually move toward mastery of the situations they find most difficult.* Learn about treatment for adults, teenagers, and children (with special advice for parents)* Practice specific goal-setting exercises and new treatment techniques* Overcome symptoms that block careers, relationships, and personal fulfillment* Conquer the entire range of problems -- from mild shyness to crippling social phobias* Achieve lasting self-esteemThrough interactive exercises and supportive, encouraging words, Beyond Shyness gives shy people a new chance in the social world, a chance at ease in situations that have long been agonizing. Berent shows how to instill a healing confidence and replace rejection with real self-respect.

Index

acquaintances, 36, 37

friends vs., 169–70, 172–73

addiction, 50–51, 248

drug, 240

adolescents, 260, 262

avoidance by, 64–66

dependency of, 53

self-image of, 64

social ability of, 48

adrenaline, 14, 15

“Adult,” as component of personality, 119–22, 167, 183, 212, 256

adults:

avoidance by, 66–67

dependency of, 53

social ability of, 48

agoraphobia, 90–91

alcohol, 128, 238, 240, 260–61

alienation, 264–66

anger:

depression and, 262

expression of, 159–61

answering machines, 76, 169

anxiety, symptoms of, 9–10, 18–19, 107–9, 119, 122–23, 270

blushing or sweating as, 140–41

case studies of, 22–28

frequency of, 20, 23, 24

identification of, 17, 31

interference by, 20–21, 23, 24

mental, 24, 25–26

physical, 13–16, 18, 20, 23

ranking of, 20–22, 23, 24

severity of, 20, 23, 24 see also social anxiety

anxiety attacks, see panic attacks

appearance, physical, 40–41, 44

in job interviews, 222–23, 226–27

self-esteem and, 80

art therapy, 252

assertiveness training, 253

autonomic nervous system, 15

behavior:

acting-out, 109

conditioning of, 12

controlling, 60–61

dependence and, 69–74

enabling, 50–52, 61, 71, 106, 257

nurturing, 60, 109–10

obsessive-compulsive, 10, 27, 28, 89

overprotective, 149, 257

rehearsal of, 136–37, 221, 222–23

rescuing, 51, 60, 61

reversal of, 97–98

social consequences of, 167–68

in social interaction, 33

bi...

Table of contents

• Cover
• Title Page
• Copyright Page
• Acknowledgments
• Contents
• One: Anxiety: Friend or Foe?
• Two: The Truth About Social Expectations and Loneliness
• Three: Good Intentions: The Parents’ Role in Social Avoidance
• Four: The Deciding Factors: Avoidance, Dependence, and Low Self-Esteem
• Five: Goal-Setting: How to Build a Map for Social Success
• Six: Managing Stress and Controlling Anxiety
• Seven: Techniques for Self-Awareness
• Eight: “Hello. My Name Is …”: Mastering Social Skills
• Nine: Applying Your Interactive Skills
• Ten: Making Community Resources Work for You
• Eleven: “Shyness” and Society: Issues and Patterns
• Twelve: Go for It! Some Final Words of Encouragement
• Index
• Footnote
• Back Cover