Part I: If not now, when? What is holding you back?
Dealing with obstacles may seem an unusual place to start in a book about seizing the moment and making a change in your career ā yet when we speak to people for the first time, often the first thing they want to talk about is all the problems that might get in the way of their success.
Those areas of concern include:
ā¢lack of motivation
ā¢limiting beliefs about their ability to find something that works for them
ā¢frustration and anger if a career change has been forced on them (i.e. through redundancy, illness or other life-changing circumstance)
ā¢lack of time
ā¢lack of money or unwillingness to take a drop in salary or retrain
ā¢family and/or friends questioning why they are considering a change.
We have covered each of these areas of concern below to give you some ideas of how you might overcome them and how others who have faced similar concerns have found a way to move forward. If you find that any of these, or indeed other concerns, are slowing you down or stopping you from realizing your potential, you may want to consider finding some professional help to deal with those issues once and for all.
Chapter 1
Overcoming fear and risk
Fear can be paralyzing, but knowing and understanding what your fear is can be the first step to facing it. The best antidote to fear when going through a career change is to work out whether your fear is based in reality or is merely a perception. So, it is reality that you canāt become a brain surgeon without having trained as a doctor, but it is a perception that they donāt accept people over twenty-five on to courses to train as doctors. By naming the fear, you can then gather evidence to ascertain what is real and what is assumed and dismiss the negative perceptions that are holding you back. Many people seem to feel that if they do nothing, it will all work out eventually and they will deal with bumps in the road as they come along. They will do almost anything not to make a choice to move forward. The irony is that deciding to do nothing is also a choice and often means that they are at the whim of factors outside their control.
Calculated risk
Thereās no getting around it: at some point, if you are going to move forward, you will have to take a leap of faith, but by basing it on research and knowledge, it will feel less daunting. Thereās a moment in Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade when Indiana is faced with a seemingly insurmountable chasm to cross to get to the Holy Grail. He knows his subject and his journey to that point has been reliant on his knowledge to avoid the pitfalls put in his way. At the chasm, he has to trust what he knows and the research that has been done and steps out into the seeming abyss to find a hidden bridge. What would it take for you to take that leap of faith in your search for your career?
If you are getting stuck, it can be useful to highlight the sticking points and come up with an action plan to solve them.
PROBLEM/STICKING POINT |
RESOLUTION OPTIONS |
e.g. |
e.g. |
I wonāt make enough money for at least two years to support my current lifestyle |
Review current lifestyle and see where there are potential savings I could sustain for two years
Build up a savings account to cover the difference between the new salary and the amount needed to support my lifestyle
Take out a professional and career development loan for the retraining and use savings for extra living expenses over the next two years |
Chapter 2
Finding the right motivation and attitude
If there is one thing that we have found over and over again as we work with people going through the process of deciding on a career direction or career change, itās that the ones who are successful are motivated and have the right positive attitude. The people who get to the end of the exercises and research knowing their future career direction are the ones who have soldiered on past obstacles, scepticism, nerves, lack of confidence and time constraints. We know from experience that this is often easier said than done, but we hope this section will help you when you come across some of the hurdles that will surely occur as you work your way through the book.
Finding your motivation
It is so important you find the motivation within yourself to make the change. Just flicking through this book hoping that change will happen by osmosis is sadly not going to work, as only you can put in the work to make it happen. It also rarely works well if you are pushing someone to make a career change, working your way through the book on their behalf (perhaps youāre a well-meaning parent or partner). Once you have found your motivation, itās important to find and maintain your positive attitude, even when the chips are down. We hope we can help you achieve that attitude by providing case studies of people who have been down this road before you and been successful. Sometimes when you are struggling, this means having to āfake it till you make itā ā faking the confidence and self-belief until things start to fall into place. It is surprising how effective that can be as a strategy to keep the momentum going and move through your doubts. There has been plenty of research and even television shows that have taken people out of their comfort zone and taught them how to fake a situation until they have achieved the insider language, the confidence and the basic skills to make people believe in them and their abilities. The faking can be tough to start off with, whether it is convincing people you are confident and positive about the career you have decided upon or overcoming nerves to go along to an information gathering interview. We have seen time and time again that there is a point where you move from being a faker to the person who has made it and it starts to become second nature. You can use the same strategies as we go through this methodology together and it is amazing how effective it can be, especially if you are feeling a little sceptical or lacking in confidence. Once you have some experience ā even if it is unpaid or for a relatively short period of time ā it can often be āenoughā to help you to come across as knowledgeable in that area.
As a relatively new consultant following his career change, James was only ever asked about what he could do for his clients and what examples he had of recent successes. They never asked how long he had been consulting, which definitely helped when he was starting out. James had learnt to be confident in a new area where he had limited experience, although what little he did have was extremely relevant. He never volunteered the information about how little experience he had and he chose to focus on what he could do.
All change is risky and, as human beings, many of us will do almost anything to avoid change until we have no alternative. While you canāt remove all the risk when it comes to progressing or changing your career, sometimes staying where you are may actually be the more risky option and much less satisfying in the long term. For some, it can take years to transition to a new career, retrain or progress within an organization, so it can be a gradual process where you can test the water rather than having to commit too much too soon.
Attitude to change exercise
If you do find your resolve wobbling and worry that perhaps this is just all too much trouble, itās worth considering the following questions:
If I do nothing at all, where might I be in five yearsā time?
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