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SECRET ONE:
GENERATING TRUST
āNever do to others what
you would not like them to do to you.ā
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Confucius
Using Wesās experiences as a starting point, we start to understand the realities of forging trust-based relationships in China, and learn to read between the lines of the surface activity going on during any Chinese negotiation.
WES FLIES IN TO MAKE A DEAL
In a smoke-filled room in a remote factory in Eastern China, Wes, a jetlagged and weary owner of a North American manufacturing company, stares across the table at his Chinese counterpart Mr. Chen, his supplierās chairman. Wes feels his blood begin to boil. He canāt believe heās spent the last 24 hours traveling halfway around the world for this.
He stares at the people in the room and, in turn, places blame for his growing rage. Heās angry with his Chinese staff, who, after months of haggling, couldnāt close the deal. Now, at their request, heās sitting in this nicotine-stained conference room, all the while thinking, āWhy canāt they do their jobs? Why do I have to do everything for them?ā
Heās angry at the woman sitting across the table who awkwardly translates their conversation, giving the meeting the feel of a low-rent diplomatic mission as the presentation moves in halting fits and starts. āClearly her English isnāt that good. I know what Iām saying isnāt being translated correctly. Why does it take her so long to say the same thing Iām saying?ā
Mainly, heās angry with the man heās travelled so far to see. Wes was patient during the lengthy tour of the factory and listened respectfully through Mr. Chenās monologue at the start of the meeting, even though little of it seemed important to the deal at hand. He was tolerant of the deference everyone, including his own China staff, showed to Mr. Chen throughout the tour and meeting. But then, while Wes was presenting his pricing proposals, the chairmanās mobile phone rang. Tired and frustrated, Wes waited for him to turn his phone off and apologise for the interruption. Instead, he took the call.
Shocked, Wes thinks, āThe man Iāve travelled so far to see takes a phone call without apology in the middle of an important meeting? How can that not be an insult, in any culture or language?ā
Before passing judgment, it would pay for Wes to consider Mr. Chenās perspective:
For months, Wesās company, a North American firm, has been going back and forth on fussy details for three small trial orders, taking up time and energy from Mr. Chenās staff. He tries to politely point this outāalbeit indirectlyāto Wes by talking in general at the beginning of their meeting about the number of customers and range of clients his company currently has, all the while painting the picture of a very busy operation with no shortage of work. āSurely now he will understand what he has been doing to us,ā the chairman thinks.
While Wes is thinking, āThe hardest part is over. Now the real opportunity is here with a large-scale order built on the back of the test orders,ā the chairman is wondering, āTheyāve been jerking me around, chopping and changing three small trial orders. What will future orders be like?ā Instead of putting the chairmanās fears to rest, what does this foreigner do? He launches into a PowerPoint presentation to try to squeeze the price down. This foreigner may be a busy man, but Mr. Chen is also busy with requests and demands from other clients around the world. How can this foreigner not see that heās wasting valuable time?
Just then the chairmanās phone rings. On the line is a real customer, someone who has been placing bulk orders with the company for years. Without hesitation, Mr. Chen takes the call. And why not? A guaranteed order is worth more than the possibility of a bigger one that may come to nothing. They even have a phrase for this in the West: āA bird in hand is worth two in the bush.ā
In truth, the chairman does like what heās hearing about volume, but is worried about the fluctuation in prices of raw materials. āThe orders are okay and what we hoped for, but how much of the raw-material price increases can I stick him for?ā he thinks.
Itās no wonder Mr. Chenās demeanour is reserved as the Western entrepreneur tries to win him over with facts and figures. How many similar presentations has he sat through before? The chairman looks at the clock in the room and wonders, āWhy isnāt this guy listening? I donāt need him. Unless my margin is a solid 10%, thereās no point in this deal. Iām not sure I can trust him.ā Still, the amount of business the Westerner is claiming sounds promising. The chairman clears his throat, and his words are translated: āItās getting late, and Iām sure you need some rest from your long journey. Why donāt we pick this up later? Let me take you out to dinner this evening.ā
Although Wes would prefer a hot shower and room service, this company is the only choice he has until he lines up other vendors. His more seasoned colleagues have told him that dining together is an important part of doing business in China. Heāll do the dinner to get Mr. Chenās backing in the short term while he considers his options. āSure, that sounds great,ā he says. As he listens to the translation, he notices the tension in the room among the Chinese staff lifting.
Wes was smart enough to accept the dinner invitationāwhich was the only point of the entire first meeting. He didnāt understand that this was the sole goal at the beginning of his meetingāor even at the endābut now that you know, act accordingly, and look for signals that a dinner is being considered.
The way China does business is not better or worse than the West. Itās just different. Your aim should be towards merging the best of East and West, seeing the strength in both, and how they can complement each other. Letās consider how Wes could have prepared better.
LESSONS TO BE LEARNT
Nobody to Blame but You
Notice when the meeting goes awry, how Wes, our frustrated Western entrepreneur, begins pointing his finger in turn at the different players in the room: his staff, the translator, and even his would-be business partner. Noticeably missing from his growing ire is himself. You have to wonder if he even knows whatās going on or how heās contributed to mounting frustrations in the room.
Trust Requires Travel
Wes did do one thing right. He got on a plane to China. Changing your mindsetāthat China isnāt a short-term strategy, that it takes time to develop relationships, and that you canāt start business meetings by going straight to the crucial issues, no matter how pressed you are for timeāis no small task. Over the years, I have seen so many executives and entrepreneurs fly into China as the flavour of the month, only to beat a hasty retreat when times are difficult or a few failures mount up. Those who stay and persevere reap the rewards. They develop a bicultural acumen that matures as they continue to work in China with Chinese partners.
Whatās crucial here is to enter into the culture with a spirit of openness and non-judgmental interest. This is easier said than done. Every Western executive who steps into a Chinese boardroom would describe themselves that way, but thinking it and feeling it are two very separate things. No doubt Wes thinks heās a paragon of worldly thinking, even after flushing with anger as his potential business partner took a call in the middle of his meeting.
You now know that building trust requires both a commitment to travel to enable face-to-face meetings, and sufficient time to allow the relationship to form, via the dinner table to the negotiating table.
Set Realistic Goals for Meetings
After the fractious meeting, the Chinese staff in the room knew something that our Western friend had yet to realise. From the supplierās position, the point of the meeting wasnāt to settle the pricing details of the contract. The true goal of the meeting? To be invited to dinner by the chairman where trust can start to be built. Food is incredibly important to Chinaās culture, but also important to Chinaās business culture. Eating in China is a favourite pastime. It doesnāt matter if youāve made great money together or if business is difficult, you can always ābreak breadā in a positive and productive way. It gives you the opportunity to get to know one another better and strengthens the foundation for future business. Wes, our Western executive, didnāt understand that sharing a meal was his ticket to making things happen.
While the cuisine and teas varies from region to region, youāll benefit from paying attention. Once you understand which dishes you like, be sure to learn their names so you can suggest them when itās time to order, which is both impressive and flattering to your potential partners. Otherwise, youāre going to be stuck eating the stereotypical foreigner meal of spring rolls, fried rice, and sweet and sour pork.
Understand Your Counterpartās Mentality
The chairman is throwing Wes a gracious lifeline. The deal is far from sealed, but Wes, despite his rocky audition, is granted entry to a place where relationships are built and fruitful business relationships blossomāthe sumptuous dining halls and drinking establishments of China. Trust may or may not be enhanced over dinner. The location of the dinner and the entertainment afterwards will be key indicators of fu...