How to Speak So People Really Listen

The Straight-Talking Guide to Communicating with Influence and Impact

Paul McGee

• Verlag: Capstone
• Jahr: 2016
• ISBN:
  9780857087249
• Auflage: 1
• Thema: Business
• Thema: Meetings & Presentations

Learn how to inspire your audience with best-selling author Paul McGee!
13 things you'll discover when reading this book...

1. The big lesson Steve Jobs learnt when an advertising exec threw something at him... and how it will help how you communicate.

2. Seven ways to manage your nerves (surprisingly, you don't want to eliminate them).

3. Why our obsession with body language is totally wrong, and what to focus on instead.

4. Why you must think about a beachball before you next speak. Believe me, it's essential.

5. A question your audience is always thinking, and how to ensure you provide the answer.

6. The most common mistake experienced presenters make that nervous ones never do.

7. Why so many presentations cure insomnia, and how to make sure you're serving an extra strong double espresso instead.

8. The number one thing most presenters forget to bring when they're speaking to others.

9. Discover the most underprepared part of your presentation, and how to avoid making the same mistake.

10. What women's magazines and TV soap operas have to teach us about audience engagement.

11. What I learnt from a guy with one of the most powerful memories on the planet, and how it can transform your communication.

12. Discover Tony Blair's biggest fear when Prime Minister, and how you can tackle the same issue with confidence.

13. Why you don't have to be funny to use humour in your presentation, and three easy ways to do it.

PART 1:

SIN 1:

Vicky was excited. I mean extremely excited. A friend of hers had arranged an opportunity for her to attend their company staff conference, where a former Olympic athlete would be speaking. The organization was investing a considerable sum of money for this celebrity to address over 300 staff.

A week after the event, Vicky and I met up. As a professional speaker myself, I was keen to hear about the impact the celebrity had made and the ways his message would help his audience.

‘So what was he like Vicky?’

Vicky appeared starry-eyed as she recalled the event.

‘He was gorgeous. All the women instantly fell in love with him. In fact, some of the guys probably did too.’

‘Interesting,’ I replied. ‘But what would you say you took away from his message?’

‘Well,’ continued Vicky, clearly excited as she relived the experience, ‘if you were patient you could wait around at the end and have your photograph taken with him and his Olympic medal.’

‘That’s brilliant Vicky, but can I ask you this: what was your key takeaway from his presentation?’

Vicky paused before finally replying: ‘That’s a tough one. I can’t remember exactly, but I know he was really good.’

It got me thinking. How often do we hear a message but very quickly forget it? Sometimes that might be acceptable if the speaker’s message was meant solely to entertain. But what if it isn’t? What if you have an important message to communicate that you need people to remember?

The problem is we’re often so busy focusing on what we’re going to say that we don’t take time to think about how to say it in a way that people will remember.

The challenge you face as a communicator is not that the attention span of your audience is necessarily short – it’s that their attention is constantly being bombarded by messages and distractions screaming ‘listen to me, notice me’. Believing that saying something once in a potentially unengaging way is going to be remembered by people is, I’m afraid, a reflection of either naivety or arrogance, or perhaps even a combination of both.

Advertisers know they need to get your attention and then communicate their message in a way that is memorable. After all, what’s the point of an organization investing in advertising if you then can’t remember the point of their message? They know that getting your attention is just the start. They then need you to remember their message.

That’s crucial for us to remember as communicators.

Ever heard the phrase ‘people won’t remember what you said, but they will remember how you made them feel’? Personally, I think that could be a cop out. How about when we communicate with people, our aim is that they’ll remember how we made them feel AND what we said?

Here’s the deal:

We need to learn how to cover our message in Velcro, rather than coat it with Teflon.

Making his message sticky and memorable was a priority for Steve Jobs. That’s why, when he wanted you to remember something, he’d repeat it over and over. Why? Because repetition aids retention. I’ll say that again – repetition aids retention. He wasn’t bothered if people said ‘Steve, you mentioned that earlier’. He knew that. But he intuitively knew the following:

Your message needs to stick if it’s going to be a hit.

Repetition is one way to do that. We’ll be exploring lots more ways throughout the book, but let me share one approach I’ve used to make my message sticky and memorable – using visual and quirky language. And the reason? Well the reality is, the more people hear overused and overfamiliar phrases, the more those words will over time, figuratively speaking, ‘go in one ear and out the other’.

So, for example, in my book SUMO (Shut Up, Move On) I explore a number of SUMO principles. Here’s what they could be called if I expressed them in a more familiar way:

1. Take responsibility.
2. Have a positive attitude.
3. Set goals.

However, the language I use to describe each principle is phrased in a less-familiar way:

1. Change your T-shirt.
2. Develop fruity thinking.
3. Ditch Doris Day.

Here’s the deal:

The unfamiliar gets our attention. And through repetition it also gets remembered.

Here’s another way I’ve used the above strategy to get remembered.

My name is Paul McGee. I think you’d agree there’s nothing particularly memorable about that name. My appearances in the media are occasional at best and, compared to many people operating in the world of motivational speaking, my life story is rather tame.

But my brand name –‘The SUMO Guy’ – gets me remembered. It gets people’s attention. It immediately conjures up a visual image and creates interest. Agree? The reality is I don’t wear a sumo outfit or prance around on stage dressed in an oversized thong. Which might disappoint some, but probably comes as a relief to many. Either way, my brand name is memorable.

Then, explaining that SUMO is an acronym which can stand for Shut Up, Move On (or sometimes Stop, Understand, Move On) also gets me remembered. It’s short and simple (words that have often been used to describe me, in fact). But because it’s short and simple, and also different and memorable, it sticks in people’s minds.

Now relax. I’m not suggesting you have to come up with some weird or wacky way to communicate your message. I’ve simply shared a strategy that works for me. You’re going to be learning many more, but although the context in which you speak is likely to be vastly different to mine, you might want to start thinking about how you could use less-familiar language to express a familiar idea.

The point I want to stress is this:

Having a great message is one thing. Getting it remembered is another entirely.

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Pause for Thought

Think about the ways you communicate your messages to others. Could your approach ever be described as boring or bland? Do you say things the way you’ve always said them? If not, great; but if you do, then perhaps it’s time to freshen up your style. Look for ideas, especially in the second section of the book, to see how you can make your message more sticky and memorable – trust me, there’ll be loads. In fact you’ve been given two already. First, repetition – be prepared to repeat your message in different ways....