Managing Conflict with Peers

Cartwright

• Editorial: Center for Creative Leadership Press
• Año: 2003
• ISBN:
  9781604917215
• Categoría: Betriebswirtschaft
• Categoría: Leadership

A great many peer conflicts arise from incompatible goals or from different views on how a task should be accomplished. With honest dialogue these kinds of conflicts can usually be resolved. But other peer conflicts are more troublesome because they involve personal values, office politics and power, and emotional reactions. To resolve these more difficult peer conflicts, managers should examine three key issues that can cause such clashes and also influence their outcome. One, they should assess their emotional "hot buttons" that trigger ineffective behaviors and make conflict difficult to manage. Two, they should examine their personal values and how those might conflict with what their peers find important. Finally, they should assess their power in the organization - which can be related to position, influence, expertise, or some other factor - and learn how to use it to manage conflicts. Navigating these issues won't rid an organization of conflict among peers. But by paying attention to them managers can build effective relationships that will survive these inevitable conflicts and bolster their ability to achieve organizational goals.

How Values Affect Conflict

Your values are critically important to your personal well-being. They are the beliefs that you find most meaningful and important. They guide your behavior and are an anchor during hardships or times of change. Conflicts, especially those that occur between peers, often involve differences in values. For example, if you suggest to a colleague that the workgroup stay late at the office to make more progress on a particular assignment but your colleague wants to go to his daughter’s soccer game, that situation might cause a conflict. At that specific moment the sacrifice and camaraderie of peers pitching in above the call of duty to accomplish a goal may be very important to you, while your peer places more importance on a balance between work and family responsibilities. Depending on how closely held these values are and how deeply each person is committed to them, such differences can result in dramatic conflicts.

Identifying Your Values

Because competing values can complicate work relationships and sometimes cause conflicts that are difficult to resolve, it’s important that you have a clear understanding of your own values. One way to gain that understanding is through an activity such as a values sort, which CCL sometimes uses in its work with managers and executives. Using the cards laid out on pages 18–20, you can quickly get a fix on your values and rank them in importance. To get started, photocopy the cards (there are three pages with ten cards each) and then cut them apart. Sort them into five stacks: always very important to me, often very important to me, sometimes very important to me, rarely very important to me, and never very important to me. Be sure to put at least one card in each stack.

Don’t worry if some of your values aren’t included in these thirty cards. You can add your own cards with values that are meaningful to you. After you have dealt your cards, look at the stacks you’ve made. Spread them out so you can see which cards (values) are in each group. What do you notice? Do you see trends, themes, or patterns? Look at the always very important to me column. If you have almost all your cards in that stack, what might that mean? (It’s very stressful to think we always have to value so many things.) Are there contradictory responses in this group? If so, you might be setting yourself up for an internal conflict. What are the things that are clearly the most important to you? Which ones would you be willing to “fall on your sword” for? Do you see how your values might set the stage for conflict with other people who are important to you? After you have studied your stacks of cards, record your rankings on a separate piece of paper.

Identifying Your Peer’s Values

Values are often difficult to recognize in your peers because these values are so personal and ingrained that your peers may not talk about them. Using the same card sort method you used for yourself, try to indicate how deeply one of your peers holds these values. Base your rankings on how you see them acting on their values. Choose a colleague with whom you have a significant working relationship but not necessarily one with whom you have a conflict. You might notice pretty quickly that you don’t know how to sort all of the values – probably because you haven’t discussed them with your peer and because there is sometimes a difference between espoused values and those that are acted on. But if you think about your peer’s behavior at work or off the job, or think about the kinds of statements they have made, you can make a good guess as to how to rank their personal values. It’s not important that your choices be exactly right, because when you review your responses you will be comparing your values with your perception of your peer’s values. If this activity were run the other way, with your peer ranking how important each value is to you, they would likely rank them differently from you.

After you have ranked the values of your colleague, compare these responses to those you recorded for yourself. Where are the biggest differences? Are significant differences related to any conflicts you have had with this peer? If you had been aware of these differences could you have handled that conflict better? Take a few minutes to reflect on that la...