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Somethingâs Missing
Can we have a heart-to-heart? You know, teacher to teacher? Maybe you steer clear of titles like âteacherâ and instead think of yourself as a small group leader, or a âfacilitatorâ of discussion with your group as you study the Scriptures. Thatâs fine. Whatever title you use, the responsibility is the same: leading people to study the Bible and praying they see their lives transformed as a result.
Big responsibility, isnât it? And if youâre honest, youâll probably admit that the task of teaching weighs on you from time to time. You know what an important role this is. Youâve heard the apostle Jamesâs warning (James 3:1) about teachers being held to a higher standard. Whether youâre just starting out as a teacher or youâve been in this role for decades, you know this is a big deal. People make choices based on what they understand in the Scriptures. Knowing God and His will is life or death. And you are stepping into a big role in helping people know how to read the Bible and understand what it means to live for Jesus.
If youâre like me, you feel uneasy about all this sometimes. Your schedule is packed with things that fight for your attention. Spare time is hard to find, and even harder to find is the mental energy needed to study. Itâs difficult enough to maintain a daily rhythm of personal Bible reading, much less spend enough time in preparation to lead your group. Thatâs why, some weeks, it feels like youâre just going through the motions. Things seem to go all right, but you worry that youâre not taking this stuff seriously enough.
Iâve been there. Iâve led small groups, taught traditional Sunday school, facilitated discussion (or whatever you call the âguided learningâ type of model), and helped with home groups. I know the struggle. And nowadays, whenever I get the opportunity to travel to different cities and speak about teaching, curriculum, ministry philosophy, and big words like pedagogy, I get to talk with group leaders from all ages and different backgrounds. People like you; people like us. The best part of meeting so many people is that I get to listen. And interestingly enough, I hear a lot of the same things, over and over again. Itâs like a catchy chorus you canât get out of your head. No matter where I go, I hear a common refrain and a number of concerns. Somethingâs missing from our small groups.
âMy group isnât outward focused at all.â
The first concern is what I call âmissional apathy.â The group leader wants to see God work in amazing ways and bring people into His kingdom. But the group itself seems to be turned inward. Thereâs little desire to engage unbelievers. Little desire to make an impact outside the walls of the church. Little desire to get involved in serving others. So the leader says things like this: âI keep harping on what our group is supposed to be doing, but itâs like banging my head against a wall. They know what the Bible says they should do, but theyâre just not interested.â In other words, lots of Bible study, but no missionary zeal.
âMy group doesnât know much about the Bible.â
The second concern is biblical illiteracy. The group leader usually has a passion for understanding Godâs Word and explaining it to others, but the group itself doesnât seem to know the Bible well at all. âThe people in my group have been in church for years, but they donât know some basic truths the Bible teaches. I get depressed when I see things on Facebook. Itâs like they donât see the world the way a Christian should. I want to challenge them to go deeper, but I donât know how. Plus, Iâm afraid Iâll lose them.â In other words, lots of church activity, but little Bible knowledge and little distinctiveness from the world.
âOur discussions always seem so shallow.â
The third concern is a dissatisfying Bible study experience. Usually, this complaint comes from the small group facilitator who leads discussion about a passage in the Bible or a theological topic. âI donât know what Iâm doing wrong. No one really seems to know how to interpret the Bible, so the discussion veers off in all directions, with everyone talking about what they think about the passage, but not what the passage actually says.â In other words, lots of talking, but no resolution on what the Bible means and how it applies.
We Need More than Quick Solutions
These problems seem like theyâre disconnected, maybe even opposed to the others. And you can find any number of books and leaders offering a quick fix.
- The group without any missionary fervor? Theyâve got too much Bible study going on. They just need to get out more! Bust up that group and get them in homes as missional communities.
- The group struggling with Bible knowledge? Reclaim the lecture-style of teaching and give it to them straight! Give them homework, ditch the time of fellowship at the beginning, and focus on the content.
- The group with shallow discussion? Stop spending so much time trying to interpret the Bible passage. Instead, discuss how the pastor interpreted the passage for his latest sermon. Spend some more time in fellowship so you can get into each otherâs lives and get messy.
You get the idea. All sorts of solutions are offered, ways to fix these problems. Church leaders want to help, so they offer new techniques to jump start your group again, fire up your teaching, or ignite great discussion. Sometimes, the idea is to mimic whatever a growing megachurch is doing. Copy the method and then get on with it.
Iâm not against trying new things and implementing new ideas. But I donât think there is a silver bullet to accomplishing discipleship through small groups. There are strengths and weaknesses to every method and model, every study environment, and every philosophy behind how we seek to capture peopleâs hearts with the truth of Godâs Word in the context of community. Even though I have my own opinions as to what methods are preferable, this book isnât about technique. Other books do a fine job laying out the options and making the case for doing life together in different ways. This book is about making sure we communicate the message of the gospel for your group, no matter what model you use.
Is It the Method or the Message?
I get the feeling that a lot of leaders are weary of running to the newest fad. Tired of trying to stir up enthusiasm for doing the same old thing. They realize itâs not enough to give a face-lift to an old idea or to whip up excitement for the newest method. Thatâs why, in this book, weâre not going to focus on the structure of your group. Iâm convinced that the method is not what matters most anyway; itâs the message. Get the message right, and God will work through a variety of methods. But miss the message, and the best methods in the world wonât bring about transformation.
When people share their concerns about the state of their groups, I usually ask some follow-up questions. And the more I drill down with leaders, the more I realize we have a message problem, and not a method problem. Most of the time, the leaders are looking for a new method. But their concerns are really about the message.
Itâs amazing to hear childrenâs Sunday school teachers, some whoâve been teaching for more than twenty years, say things like, âSometimes, I feel like all weâre telling these kids to do is share their toys and obey Mom and Dad.â In other words, kidsâ ministry is all about telling kids what to do. The goal is having a church full of nice kids.
Move up a few grades and student ministers worry that all theyâre doing is telling kids what not to do. You go from âobey Mommy and Daddy,â to âdonât drink, do drugs, or have sex.â For twelve years, kids get all the âdoâsâ of Christianity and then during middle school and high school, they get all the âdonâts.â So youth workers will say things like, âWe want more than this, right? We want their hearts, not just their behavior, donât we?â
Leaders of adult groups tire of being the perpetual cheerleader for life as it currently is. âI feel like weâre rushing to pull things out of the Bible that just arenât there. Like weâre more concerned about being practical than anything else.â In other words, Bible study seems to be centered on whatever topic the group considers most needed.
So even if the initial concerns are explained in terms of methods, the real rub with leaders and teachers is about the message. Just what are we doing when we open the Bible? Whatâs the point? Whatâs the goal? How do I know if this is really working?
Thereâs a sense of uneasiness in the growing realization that from childhood until adulthood, no matter what method is used, the main message we seem to be getting across is this: âBeing a Christian is all about being a nice person and making the world a better place.â And the reason many leaders are uncomfortable with the current state of things is because they should be. They know that the Bible says much more.
Letâs Go Deeper?
So what do we do? Once we put aside the ongoing conversations about the method, we can start examining the messageâwhat it is weâre getting across. Thatâs a good start. And almost everyone who starts analyzing our message realizes that we need to go âdeeper.â The problem is, no one seems to agree on what âgoing deeperâ looks like.
I once met a youth pastor who was so frustrated with accusations of âshallownessâ and demands for âmore depthâ that he told me, âFine! If they want to go deeper, Iâm going to go so deep it drives them nuts. Iâll drown them in depth!â Not exactly the best posture to take as a disciple-maker of the next generation.
I didnât like the youth pastorâs attitude. But I did understand his frustration. Why? Because sometimes itâs hard to please the people clamoring for âdeeperâ teaching when everyone seems to have a different idea of what âdeepâ is. Thatâs why some leaders and teachers will change the subject and start talking about the methods again, because the âdeeperâ conversation about the message makes everyone want to throw their hands up in despair.
Itâs tricky trying to define âdepth,â but weâre going to take a stab at it. To do so, we need to look at two common ways that people talk about âdepth.â Both are insufficient.
Depth as âInformationâ
A lot of folks think that their small group experience is âdeepâ if they learn something they didnât know beforehand. In other words, they want to close their Bibles at the end of group time with more information than they had when they opened them. Give me more knowledge! Tell me something I didnât know!
It really doesnât matter what the information is, as long as itâs new, interesting, and makes everyone feel smarter. It can be information about an obscure archeological dig somewhere in the Middle East. Or it can be the careful parsing of the tense of a Greek verb. Whatever. The goal is âmore knowledge.â
Now, Iâve got to admit I sympathize with Christians who want more facts. When I was a missionary in Romania, I quickly realized just how blessed we are as English speakers. We have more resources available to us in our native tongue than ever before. It is astounding to consider all the information we have at our fingertips. (And the digital revolution has only increased our access to Bible study tools.)
But even with all these resources, people seem to know less and less about the Bible. Almost everyone agrees that we have a biblical illiteracy problem in the United States. Itâs an epidemicâeven among people who have grown up in church. No one seems to be immune. A lot of the people in our groups have disjointed stories from the Bible floating around in their minds, but no one is quite sure how they all fit together. Even basic facts get mangled in our churches. When c...