Section 1
Self-Leadership
Overview
By coincidence, just as I was finishing this book, I reconnected with an old client via LinkedIn. It was a sales manager Iād first trained 20 years ago. In the course of our exchanged messages, he mentioned there was one thing Iād told him back then that had really stuck with him: the need for sales managers to take ownership of everything that happens on a team, good and bad. āI learned that if I have the mental attitude that a problem is āout there,ā then thatās the real problem,ā he recalled. āI always have to think about what I can do to make a situation better.ā
There was a double coincidence associated with this exchange because Iād just read a book called Extreme Ownership2 about leadership in the Navy SEALs. The book was written by Leif Babin and Jocko Willink, two combat-proven US Navy SEAL officers who led the most highly decorated special operations unit of the Iraq War. (One of the soldiers on Babin and Willinkās team was Chris Kyle, author of The New York Times best-seller American Sniper, which was the inspiration for the movie of the same name.)
Given what Iād been teaching for the past two decades, it was natural that Iād see connections between sales management and how SEALs train and prepare their leaders, mold and develop teams, and lead in combat.
The authors point out that most leaders have a mindset that they are doing everything right. So when things go wrong, instead of looking at themselves, they blame others.
Iāve seen this a lot with sales managers. Suppose a team misses quota. The manager thinks theyāre doing everything right, so their only option is to lay the blame on things that others are doing unsatisfactorily: sales reps have too many cold or unqualified leads; marketing isnāt asking the right questions; thereās not enough technical staff to support trials; the new product hasnāt been adequately tested. Whatever. These sales managers are thinking to themselves, āWell, Iām just going to do the best I can with what I have. A lot of these problems are out of my control.ā
Unfortunately, this attitude bleeds over to the sales rep. They have a problem and what do they say? āA lot of these problems are out of my control.ā
The exchange with my old acquaintance and the lessons from Extreme Ownership reminded me that the most important factor for success is the mentality of the sales manager leading a team. If that person thinks the problem is āout there,ā sustained success and continued improvement will be very hard to come by. But if the sales manager has the mindset of a leader and is committed to doing everything possible to help their team achieve what matters most, then anything is possible.
The chapters in this section of the book are devoted to helping you understand what it means to be the leader of a sales team, not just its manager.
Chapter 1: Embrace a Leadership Mindset discusses how to identify sales instincts that may be holding you back as a manager and how to replace them with more powerful leadership mindsets. Whether trained or untrained, novice or experienced, all sales managers run the risk of falling back on old habits and acting more like a super-salesperson than a leader.
Chapter 2: Take Control of Your Time and Priorities addresses what is, without question, the single most common complaint I hear from sales managers: They ādonāt have timeā to coach. This chapter provides practical ideas for how sales managers can identify and focus on their priorities, including suggestions for how to act on the classic advice to separate the merely urgent from the truly important.
Chapter 1
Embrace a Leadership Mindset
I have two lists of attributes to show you:
List 1
- Speaks clearly and fluently
- Shows confidence in their abilities and ideas
- Provides value on a sales call
- Understands the needs of customers
List 2
- Assigns accounts fairly and equitably
- Ensures that new personnel receive the training and support they need
- Works with reporting employees to create a plan for their development
- Deals effectively with employees who do not meet their commitments
Whatās your impression of the difference between these lists? People usually tell me that List 1 sounds like the characteristics of a top sales performer while the items in List 2 are the things that good sales managers should be doing. Do you agree?
Hereās the twist: Both lists include items from the survey I mentioned in the Introduction (p. 1) of 1,500 business-to-business salespeople who were asked to rate their managers on 80 categories. List 1 contains the items that filled out the rest of the top 5 things that salespeople think their managers do really well. List 2 is the rest of the bottom 5 items, meaning the things these managers did very poorly. Notice the pattern? According to salespeople, sales managers have great selling skills and not so great management skills.
These results confirm an observation I made many years ago: Sales managers find it too easy to fall back into their comfort zone, doing what they are already good atānamely, sellingāand have a hard time making the switch to managing a sales team.
Why does this occur? Almost every sales manager I know was, at one point in their career, a peak-performing sales professional, the top dog on the team. Their organization then recognized their contributions and promoted them into a sales management roleāand everything changed. Everything except perhaps them.
This presents a problem. Why? Because managing and leading a sales team requires a completely different mindset from selling. Yet what sales managers have to rely on are the instincts and competencies they developed when they were selling. Those instincts are part of their DNA; they stick around regardless of how long a former sales rep has been in a managerās role, whether 1 year, 10 years, or 20 years. With the dozens of decisions that sales managers face every day, they have no option but to go with what feels right in the moment, and for the most part what āfeels rightā will be informed by their sales instincts.
Overcoming these instincts is difficult for successful-reps-turned-managers. It simply doesnāt occur to them that they will need to change something that has made them successful. Noted leadership consultant Ram Charan and his colleagues discuss this concept in their book The Leadership Pipeline: āThe highest-performing people, especially, are reluctant to change; they want to keep doing the activities that made them successful.ā3 And thus we learn that Sun Tzu was right when he said, āEventually your strengths will become a weakness.ā
Thatās why, beyond any specific techniques you learn, you need to re-frame your thinking around a leadership mindset. Your decisions canāt be based on what āfeels rightā from a salespersonās perspective; they have to be driven by whatās good for your team. So challenge yourself with this question: Are the competencies that made me a top salesperson inhibiting my effectiveness as a sales team leader?
The answer is always yes. The odds are high that you are constantly fighting a subconscious war of instincts. (See sidebar, p. 18) Many times each day you are confronted by various issues and challenges. From what mindsetāthe salesperson or the sales team leaderāare you making your daily decisions? Most of us just do what we instinctively feel is right.
Letās examine several ways in which this struggle plays out every day. Iāll explain how some of the instincts possessed by great salespeople are the polar opposite of the mindset needed to become a more effective leader of a great sales team.
An example of instinct vs. leadership mindset struggles
When my son, Kyle, was seven years old, he signed up to play Little League baseball. His first year was difficult because he was unskilled. So I worked with him in the off-season to improve his throwing, hitting, and catching. In his second season, I volunteered to be assistant coach on his team. When the team met for the initial practices, I was sure that Kyle was at least the third-best player on the team. Yet when the teamās season began, the head coach had Kyle batting last in the line-up and playing out in right field. (In Little League, right field is where you place your weakest playerāsomething I know because I played right field when I was Kyleās age!)
Midway through the season, the head coach called and asked me to manage the team for the next game because he was sick. Naturally, I moved Kyle to second base and batted him leadoff. Were my instincts correct? Kyle struck out in every at bat and made five errors. Iāll never forget watching my son boot another ground ball while listening to the parents complain about the new second baseman.
This isnāt a story of Kyleās skill (or lack thereof). Kyleās performance that fateful day proved to me that, in my subconscious, I had been assessing Kyle from my instincts as a father rather than as a coach interested in having the whole team succeed. The same kind of struggle between what comes naturally and what is best for the team plagues sales managers every day.
War #1: Player vs. Observer
Every great salesperson Iāve known wanted to be in on the action, down on the field, making the plays. That strong drive is what made them great and brought them stellar results.
But sales managers are not put in the job to keep selling. They are put in the job so they can help others become the best salespeople they can be. Great sales managers see themselves as observers and coaches, not players.
Based on my own experience as a salesperson and manager and my observations (as a consultant) of sales managers over the past two decades, I can state unequivocally that this switch from player (sales rep) to observer (sales manager) is the hardest change all sales managers face. It takes a strong will to keep yourself from doing what you know you do better than everyone else on your team, and even the most experienced sales managers are prone to backslide to their sales instincts if they arenāt vigilant.
My first year in sales, many years ago, I was awkwardāand a slow learner. (Remember, I was a right fielder!) But my first sales manager, Guy Campbell, must have seen some potential because he invested a lot of time in coaching me. When Guy joined me on a customer meeting, I noticed he had a habit of pulling out a coin and placing it in the palm of his han...