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âLiving on the Marginâ
Working-Class Marriages and Family Survival Strategies
âWalter Benda gave every cent he earned to his wife,â a settlement worker observed approvingly, âand she planned carefully.â Scholars such as Susan Levine, Kathy Peiss, Elizabeth Ewen, and Judith Smith have called our attention to the diligence and creativity of working-class women who, like Mrs. Benda, acted as managers of the family fund; they have also acknowledged the limitations of that role, especially when errant husbands proved less cooperative than Walter Benda. In fact, I would go even farther than these historians in revising the essentialized picture of the working-class woman as consumer. The power of this trope depends upon an assumption of a gendered division of labor within the family: male as breadwinner, woman as householder. My sourcesâprimarily the raw data from Womenâs Bureau investigations of wage-earning women and their families as well as case studies of working-class families experiencing unemployment during the 1920s and 1930sâsuggest a much less intense gendering of the work of keeping a family going. On the one hand, the male breadwinning ethic was far from universal among these families. Menâs attitudes toward breadwinning ranged from total acceptance of the ethic through various reservations about it to outright rejection of the responsibility involved. Moreover, many women expressed a sense of obligation to earn some or all of the family support, even when husbands and/or fathers were present and earning. Similarly, some women expressed a preference for wage earning over household work, and some men saw housework as part of their responsibility. One of the most intriguing things about this material is the degree to which the Womenâs Bureau agents and the social-science writers did not âtake inâ these gender transgressions; they invariably ignored this evidence or wrote it out of their analyses. Ironically, this gives me greater confidence in making my arguments: it makes me think that the evidence they did record, even though it clashed with their world-views, is relatively trustworthy and probably only a portion of similar evidence that otherwise-oriented investigators might have recorded.
The marriages discussed in these documents differ distinctly from the companionate marriage that was so widely touted during the 1920s and 1930s. I reject the use of the term âcompanionateâ for these evolving relationships for two reasons. First, companionate marriage implies a strong and primarily romantic bond between marriage partners. In working-class relationships the affect was more of a generalized familial one based on loyalty and obligation rather than on romance or sexual attraction; indeed, family economic survival competed with and often obscured such feelings entirely. In this respect, their closest analog would be European peasant marriages in which there was a clear sense of shared responsibility and joint enterprise. Second, I find the term inappropriate because companionate marriages rested on a continuing, even rigidifying, set of segregated sex roles that cast husbands as breadwinners/producers and wives as consumers. My argument about working-class partnership marriages is that they involved a definite, if subtle and partial, breaching of the boundaries between gender roles.
The fluidity that marked partnership marriages did not originate, let me emphasize, for the sake of working toward some abstract notion of gender equality; rather, the material conditions of life in the North American working class reinforced some peopleâs willingness to improvise and to put other goals above the maintenance of dominant-culture gender constructions. Working-class people made adjustments in one aspect of their lives in order to relieve pressures and lighten burdens in other aspects of their lives. They sought to make the best of lives lived amidst great difficulty, lives conditioned by circumstances not of their own choosing. These relationships should not be idealized, just as whatever degree of gender equity there may have been in slave marriages should not be idealized. In the latter case, any gender equity came at the price of being owned as chattel property; in the case I examine, gender equity was inseparable from want and scarcity. And in both cases, adherence to dominant-culture notions of gender did not take top priority. The families discussed in this chapter negotiated a difficult set of circumstances in which expectations were not clear. Their family economies, like the ones studied by Jeanne Boydston in the early republic, were mixed economies that drew on a rich array of resources: wage-earning outside the home, wage-earning within the home, and cash-replacement activities. Many of the families in this study were also immigrant ones, as was the majority of the working class at the end of World War I. As such, they confronted both a new culture in the United States and a particularly volatile phase of capitalism.
The Travails of the Male Breadwinner
Because men, by and large, could earn higher wages than women, access to a manâs wage was crucial to the family economy. The ideal husband earned steady wages and contributed his entire pay envelope to the family fund. Many men spoke of their desire to earn a family wage, such as the Italian man who labored on the streets of Philadelphia and told the Womenâs Bureau agent, âI want the wage and my wife stay homeâ That we should not take such demands for a family wage simply as expressions of male dominance is suggested by the comment of another Philadelphian, a Polish textile worker, who wished âthings were so that men could earn enough to support a family then women would not have to slave at two jobsâ A man might want a family wage for many reasons, but this one alerts us to the fact that he might do so more out of respect for his wifeâs hard labor than out of a sense of his male privilege.
Even for those men inclined by culture and temperament to be model breadwinners, the labor market provided as many barriers as opportunities. The drive for efficiency and productivity if anything intensified during the 1920s and 1930s, assuring that insecurity and instability of employment would remain a part of menâs occupational experience. The skilled men in my sources were thrown out of steady work by technologyâprinters and skilled carpenters seem to have been especially hard hitâone woman said of her father, âa cooper hasnât a job these days.â Semi-skilled and unskilled men found continued or increased periodic and seasonal unemployment. âSlack workââshort hoursâwas a repeated complaint, and workers who had long been accustomed to seasonal, usually winter, unemployment, found those seasons of unemployment stretching, as did one Italian-born laborer, from a month to three months to five months. One month of unemployment, or even three months, might be planned and saved for, but seven months of a laborerâs wages couldnât stretch to cover a year. In early 1933, a Washington, DC, carpenter voiced the spiraling frustrations of dealing with low pay and slack work: âOne lone salary is not enough to buy a home and support a family on.âŚIt was hard when I had steady work and now I just canât do it.â The Immigrant Woman and Her Job, a 1930 report of the Womenâs Bureau, offered a sobering view of the difficulties of male breadwinning. Of the 468 Philadelphia married women interviewed for the study, 218 accounted for their work by mentioning their husbandsâ difficulties in breadwinning. Nearly four out of five referred to their husbandsâ difficulties in securing regular work, either because their trades were seasonal, because they could not get full weeksâ work, or because they were outright unemployed. Irregular work loomed much larger in these womenâs worldviews than did wage rates: just over a quarter mentioned the low wages earned by their husbands.
Like everyone, men had multiple identities, and these identities had the potential to conflict. Union men, for example, asserted their manly independence through union activity, but that could cut two ways. If successful, it assured more regular work and higher wages, and hence enhanced a manâs ability to fulfill the breadwinner role; if unsuccessful, however, it might seriously hamper his breadwinner potential. A Philadelphia taxi driver, for example, enjoyed six years of steady employment at substantial wages but then joined his fellow taxi drivers in a strike for higher wages. The strike was broken and he was blacklisted for eighteen months. A Memphis man was out of work for almost a year after the 1922 railroad shopmenâs strike. One African American man found himself singled out from his new union fellows: when white employers realized that they would have to pay him the same wage as the unionâs white carpenters, they fired him and hired whites only. An Oklahoma man left town during the railroad shop strike of 1922, ostensibly to find work elsewhere, but he made no contact with his wife until a week before the Womenâs Bureau agent visited her in May 1924. Changing the point of view, then, changes the meanings of union militancy. From the vantage point of the family economy, it might mean lowered wages because of various types of discrimination, or it might be the knife that cuts the last ties of a lackadaisical breadwinner to the family. Manly assertion in a union was a gamble under the best of circumstances, but during the 1920s, at least, it does not seem to have been a winning gamble for the family.
Other men rebelled against the breadwinning ethic itself instead of against their employers. The transition from bachelorhood to serious wage earning seems to have been difficult. A Womenâs Bureau agent noted that one recently married man âseemed to lack ambition or forceâ; another, whose wife said that he ânever likes his jobâalways has trouble,â took a more adversarial stance toward the labor market. A Providence woman told the Womenâs Bureau agent that she had married but her husband never worked and after three months she left him; she apparently counted herself fortunate that he did not demand money from her. The bachelor subculture of which George Chauncey has written so eloquently, which countered the male breadwinner role with its âalternative definition of manliness that was predicated on a rejection of family obligations,â may have continued to exert a social and erotic pull on urban men even after marriage. Reluctance about breadwinning would have been an eloquent way to perpetuate the bachelor subcultureâs scorn for âthe domesticating and moralizing influence of women.â Perhaps the best explanation for this phenomenon came from a southern textile worker to whom the writers of the classic history Like a Family gave the pseudonym of Ruth Elliot. Musing on her husbandâs irresponsibility and alcoholic binges, she speculated that at the root of it was the fact that
When we were married we wasnât anything but kids. We had three babies, one right after the other, and somebody had to settle down. And it had to be me. Jesse never did settle down. It was too much of a load on him. If he had stayed single and hadnât saddled himself with a wife and kids, he would have sowed his wild oats and gotten over it. Instead, he planted a permanent garden, and it was disastrous. I know that now. But that didnât help me out a bit then.
In some cases, which we might term the fair-weather breadwinners, men rebelled against the rigors of the labor market and industrial work discipline. One man, a Greek-born shoe-factory worker, took being out of work quite casually, determining âthat he is doing his best and is in no way responsible, and that if he isnât able to support his family, some one else will have to do it.âŚHe searches for jobs, but is not adaptable.â A fired streetcar man refused to work âunless he can find an easy job and so far hasnât been able to find one.â Other men balked at the punishing demands of the jobs available to them; a St. Joseph man who could only secure jobs that required âheavy carryingâ finally decided that âhe had rather stay home than break his back.â Wives often saw such behavior as shiftlessness, as did the ex-wife of an African American Chicagoan who claimed that her husband âwould not work walking up and down the streets all day smoking cigarettes so I put him out.â But in a class by himself was the St. Paul man who would work at the Armour Company only during the summer when he could play on the company baseball team and steadfastly refused the companyâs offer of a steady job at twenty-seven dollars a week. Seen only in the light of the menâs work lives, these examples might appear to suggest evidence of assertive manlinessâas a rebellion against industrial time discipline and bad working conditions or as assertive union activity. From the point of view of the family, though, they meant insufficiency and uncertainty.
For less obvious reasons, other men physically distanced themselves from the breadwinning role. Desertion was a common response to a range of problematic job situations. Men who sought to escape unemployment sometimes abandoned their families. One New York woman defended her husband to a social worker: âItâs only when he canât get work he runs away!â Jobs that were disliked also encouraged desertion. Transference probably fashioned impatience with a less-than-ideal home life out of what began as an unwillingness to put up with a difficult work situation: one deserter had changed jobs âfrequently, [being] easily dissatisfied, not a steady worker even when work is available,â another âgets very excitable and quits.â The arbitrary authority structures in working-class jobs provided one source of irritation; a paper mill worker quit his job because the âboss kick too much,â while a machinist had a habit of quitting jobs after conflict with his foremen. In such cases, desertion was not always an all-or-nothing matter. Some returned âfrom time to timeâ but failed to take responsibility for family support, whereas others secured jobs elsewhere and se...