SECTION I
STRATEGIES AND PRINCIPLES
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CHAPTER 1
BUILDING YOUR RELATIONSHIP STRATEGY
KEITH FERRAZZI AND TAHL RAZ
Keith Ferrazzi is the author of the bestselling books Never Eat Alone, with Tahl Raz, and Whoâs Got Your Back? Both Forbes and Inc. have called Ferrazzi âone of the worldâs most connected individuals.â As founder and CEO of the business consulting firm Ferrazzi Greenlight, he counsels the worldâs top enterprises, dramatically accelerating the development of business relationships to drive sales, spark innovation, and create team cohesion. Tahl Raz is the publisher of KeithFerrazzi.com, where you can find more information and free resources.
Chapter Highlights
⢠Why it is critical to have a relationship strategy
⢠What generosity means
⢠The importance of vulnerability to establishing trust
⢠How candor creates believability and real-ness
⢠Why accountability is a must
In todayâs virtual world, you donât need a Twitter strategy or a Facebook strategy or even a Google strategy. You need a relationship strategy that leverages all aspects of social media.
Weâre in the midst of a power shift, one of the most exciting and profound shifts in recent economic history. Itâs a transformation so deep that weâre only now beginning to understand what it means for the future of business.
As I criss-cross the nation coaching CEOs and training sales teams, addressing the needs of companies big and small in every industry, it is clear that the winners in this emerging world, those primed for financial prosperity and market leadership, are the ones who take what I call a relationship-centric approach to every aspect of their business.
WELCOME TO THE SOCIAL BUSINESS REVOLUTION
Relationships are the ultimate source of advantage, the new heavyweight champion of the marketing ring. Social media, however, is the champâs head trainer. Thereâs never been a better tool for relationship building. Social media allows for two-way conversations with an entire market, a reality that would have made the innovative Madison Avenue ad men in the 1950s fall off their Eames sofas.
But you shouldnât try approaching social media without a deep understanding of the relationship-centric reality of Web 2.0, the reality of the ever-increasing importance of foundational mindsets like generosity, transparency, and candor. If you rush or go in without information, what youâll get is an all-too-common experience nicely captured by Googleâs Analytics Evangelist, Avinash Kaushik: âSocial media [can be] like teen sex. Everyone wants to do it. Nobody knows how. When itâs finally done, there is surprise itâs not better.â
Luckily, through knowledge, practice, and commitment, social media can be exciting, engaging, pleasurable, and successful for any business.
dp n="22" folio="5" ?Smart innovators are learning that the model is no longer CRM (Customer Relationship Management) but rather CMR (Customer Managed Relationships).
The sales and marketing funnel isnât linear, and itâs not a funnel. Itâs more like concentric circles of awareness, interaction, engagement, participation, conversation, affinity, awareness, community, and trust. A funnel would imply passive consumption, but thatâs no longer how things work. Todayâs consumer behavior has changed to active participation. I post a question to my Facebook page, asking what people think about the Kindle, then double check it against comments on Amazon, and follow those comments to someoneâs Twitter account . . . and on and on.
Social media can be like teen sex. Everyone wants to do it. Nobody knows how. When itâs finally done, there is surprise itâs not better.
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A brand is no longer what the company says it is. Itâs what their customers say it is. Companies still need to influence their brand, though. How do you do that? Not by interrupting your customers with brand-making promises, delivered as advertisements. You influence a brand by encouraging people associated with that brandâforging direct relationships, relationships built on action and experience and . . . CARING. Thatâs right, your next sales seminar is likely to be more like Oprah than your traditional hardcharging Joe Salesguy.
To be meaningful or memorable, these relationships must engage, enable, and empower. Memorable is an action, specifically a one-to-one action, and so really it is an interaction. Which brings us back to the beginning: Todayâs consumer influence is built on a platform of one-to-one relationships.
So, what does all this mean for you, the individual looking to increase your influence and your business online?
dp n="23" folio="6" ?In todayâs economy, the guy with the most relationships of the highest quality wins. Even the likes of IBM are turning to this âsoftâ side of business and recently published findings quantifying the value of oneâs network. IBMâs research analysts found that each additional person in a consultantâs e-mail address book boiled down to $948 in additional annual revenue. That gives new heft to the idea that your ânetwork is your net worthâ!
Todayâs most successful entrepreneurs, the Gary Vaynerchuks (who has close to a million followers on Twitter) and the Tony Hsiehs (who built Zappos from nothing to $1 billion in nine years) of the world, use social media to build relationships that turn customers into fansâand more profitable customers. They do it in entertaining, authentic, and sometimes provocative ways. You can, too. In fact, if youâre not out there in the social media space, youâre missing out on a golden opportunity to build those relationships. Youâre missing a golden opportunity to introduce yourself and your business much more personally to more of the world than you were able to do before.
After a few missteps, I learned that Twitter provided what I had previously considered a sort of unattainable Holy Grail: a space where I could interact with fans much more authentically and spontaneously than ever beforeâasking questions, answering them, sharing insights, and even organizing impromptu meet-ups.
Now, I didnât launch myself heavily in the social media space until my book tour for Whoâs Got Your Back? in the summer of â09. After taking in a truckload of adviceâsome good, some badâI finally went out on the road with Tweetdeck on my Blackberry.
Once I finally got active in the medium, I was kicking myself for not starting long before. Social media allows me to open up the front of my relationship pipeline. Iâm able to connect with more people of a similar mindset. It also allows me to ping the 25 people closest to me virtually every day; thereâs no better way to stay on someoneâs mental radar, which is not only how you build a relationship but also how you ensure that youâre the person people call when they need something.
Social media is expanding our relationship horizons. I can develop relationships on a scale beyond anything I even dreamed of back when I wrote Never Eat Alone. Still, the essential truth I expressed in that book remains unchanged in the online space: Networking means nothing if the connections you create are just names in your database. What makes for a happy life and white-hot success are mutual, meaningful two-way relationships marked by generosity and care. And for the most part, those are the kinds of relationships you need to be building online as you amass followers and friends.
Of course, social media isnât just Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn. And the gurus in this book will be giving you a thousand and one incredible tips, tools, and strategies for launching âBrand Youâ online. What Iâd like to offer you upfront, however, are some ground rules to focus you on relationship building before you get caught up in the tactics and technology of social media.
Fortunately, Iâve found that the rules for building relationships online arenât that different than the rules for building relationships elsewhere. The only real difference is that online communication magnifies your ability to do damage, just as it magnifies your ability to succeed. But donât let that scare you. Read on.
The most overused but apt metaphor for social media is that itâs a giant cocktail party. Indeed, if you want to take something meaningful away in terms of building relationships, the rules are exactly the same: get involved, listen empathetically, and look to give more than you get. The returns are really the same as well: lasting, loyal relationships that can make a difference to your business and your happiness.
dp n="25" folio="8" ?Before you take to Twitter et al, youâd better be a pro at what I call ârelationship mastery.â
Ground yourself and your interaction with others in Four Mindsets: Generosity, Vulnerability, Candor, and Accountability. I teach a system that Iâm calling Accelerated Relationship Development, which helps people build on that foundation with a rich skill set, and ultimately teaches them how to make their outreach purposeful by building a Relationship Action Planâan alignment of your goals and dreams with the people you intend to help, and who can help you. All that stuff is important, incredibly important, but if I could only teach people one thing to create more meaningful relationships, it would be the Four Mindsets.
GENEROSITY
Generosity is the base from which all the other mindsets arise. It indicates a commitment to support that begins with the willingness to share your deepest insights and ideas with the world. Itâs also the promise to help others succeed by whatever means you can muster. Nothing is more important if you want to build the kind of relationships that will build your business, online and off.
In a business setting, where people are distracted and in a hurry, leading with generosity is a great way to get someoneâs attention. The more generous you are to other people in offering first your humanity and then your knowledge, advice, and talents, the more willing theyâll be to share their concerns.
At some point, your relationship will grow strong enough that youâll be able to take even greater risks with each other. Youâll be able to tell them what you think they ne...